I’ve never really been the type to get dolled up or dressed up to go somewhere. I mean I will if the occasion truly calls for it but for the most part, I’d rather pass. I’d be more content walking around in Marcus scrubs then I would in dolling myself up which I know is something I need to work on. My husband deserves someone who cares about her looks but I guess it’s hard when you work at home. One step at a time I guess?
The problem is I don’t have a green thumb. Never have. In fact even plants that I’ve had in flower planters seem to die around me. It’s depressing; but I honestly think having a garden would give me something to be proud of and would make me proud of myself. Plus, it would be nice to not have to rely on going to the store for vegetables. Maybe one day…
The other day Robby was talking shop to me— specifically about Carter fuel pump module assembly which if I’m honest, bored me to death. I just have no interest and so everything he said went in one ear and out the next. This is why I hope that we have a boy one day. I think it will be good for him to have someone he can talk to who will actually be interested.
“Being happy isn’t easy. It’s work and it takes a lot of effort. Too many people fail to realize that and instead settle for a life of misery because it’s much easier to be miserable than happy.” — SMITTEN
(via excitableangie)
Last Thursday, we posted a draft of a new policy against blogs that actively promote self-harm, along with some PSA-style language to appear next to searches associated with self-injury. The reaction was overwhelming. The post itself provoked more than 25,000 likes, reblogs, and replies; and more than 2,500 of you sent in comments by email. Thank you.
By far, the most common comment was some variation on this:
This is really great, but what about people who just talk about it? They aren’t promoting it in any way, but like some of us just express ourselves through posting about it. I don’t promote self-harm or eating disorders or anything, but I do talk about my experiences with these things. Do those count as something that’s going to be banned?That’s an important concern, so we want to be totally clear: While we won’t allow blogs dedicated to triggering self-harm, we will not act against blogs engaged in discussion, support, encouragement, and documenting the experiences of those dealing with difficult conditions like anorexia, bulimia, and other forms of self-injury. We absolutely want Tumblr to be a place where people struggling with these behaviors can find solace, community, dialog, understanding, and hope.
We will apply this policy on a blog-by-blog basis. There won’t be any wholesale suspension based on tags or text. We’re not under the illusion that it will be easy to draw the line between blogs that are intended to trigger self-harm and those that support sufferers and build community, but, thanks to the tireless efforts of our amazing Support team, we will do our best.
With the benefit of all your input, we’ve written a new draft of this policy, changing some wording and adding some clarifying language:
Promotion and Glorification of Self-Harm. Don’t post content that actively promotes or glorifies self-harm. This includes content that urges or encourages readers to cut or injure themselves; embrace anorexia, bulimia, or other eating disorders; or commit suicide rather than, e.g., seeking counseling or treatment, or joining together in supportive conversation with those suffering or recovering from depression or other conditions. Dialogue about these behaviors is incredibly important and online communities can be extraordinarily helpful to people struggling with these difficult conditions. We aim to sustain Tumblr as a place that facilitates awareness, support and recovery, and to remove only those blogs that cross the line into active promotion or glorification of self-harm.In addition, we got some helpful suggestions from the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) to improve the language that we’ll start showing alongside searches for tags associated with the promotion of self-harm, such as “pro-ana”, “pro-mia”, “thinspiration” and “thinspo”. Here’s an example of the revised language:
Eating disorders are not lifestyle choices, they are mental disorders that when left untreated, can cause serious health problems, and at their most severe can even be life-threatening. For treatment referrals, information and support, please contact the National Eating Disorders Association’s Helpline at 1-800-931-2237 or www.nationaleatingdisorders.org.We’re working with other health organizations to help us craft similar language around pro-cutting and pro-suicide search terms.
After the jump, we’ve pulled out several thoughtful messages from the community on both sides of this issue:
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I’m a tiny girl for my age and for my ethnicity and as a result I can never find boots that fit me. I’ve tried everything! Even wolverine boots and still no luck! Which is so sad because I always see them and think damn those are cute, I want some but nope, not for me. I has a sad. :(
I’ve never been big on hospitals. I don’t like them and they freak me out. Last April was no exception when Robby was hospitalized due to a cyst found on his heart. What made it worse was that no one could tell me what it was and I was terrified. I already had to deal with a bulging disc surgery with my ex-boyfriend and I didn’t know if I had to prepare myself to possible open heart surgery. Thankfully that was not the case and I’m hoping I won’t have to worry about that any time soon!
Every summer we try our best to make it out to the river. We generally try for at least once but there are some years where we make it out two or three times a year. Last year was no exception and it was a blast minus the tubing bender that we had. Basically we hit a group of individuals and our entire party flipped. We lost EVERYTHING. I managed to hang on to the drink I had in my hand but that was about it. Maybe this year will be better. :)